I coach so many women who really have no problem laying it all out there for their kids their spouse, their boss, their community, their church, they are consumed with putting the needs and desires of others ahead of their own. They are considered Self-less.  Many times they will tell me that when they think about their own desires they feel selfish and they say it in a way that has a bad connotation to it a bad vibe or ring to it.  Today, I want to talk about what it really means to be selfish.