The Best Ability Is Availability

“The best ability is availability”…my husband gave me this quote and said my people would love it.

When your husband gives you a quote, you use it, even if it came from something he heard on ESPN!

You do a Podcast and a FB Live, you write a blog…all the things.

I googled to find out that Bill Parcells is credited with this quote but many a good football players have echoed the same sentiment.

Here’s the deal…

You can have all the talent and skill in the world, but if you don’t bring it to the game, it doesn’t matter. 

Soooo true right?

Henry Cloud said… “You get what you tolerate.” 

Here is where the two quotes converge…when we are in a state of “tolerating” we are unavailable. 

We aren’t available to live and experience the entire human experience.  We aren’t bringing all of our talent and skill to the game…to our life.

Right now is a beautiful time with what we are going through, it’s a great time to ask yourself, what you have been tolerating and what have you been unavailable for?

What have you been tolerating that is not a fit for your soul. Not a fit for your vision, for your life.  What isn’t a fit for your dreams?  And what just doesn’t feel good anymore?

• We tolerate food that doesn’t fuel us.
• We tolerate relationships that don’t enrich us.
• We tolerate thoughts that don’t serve us.

When we tolerate…

• We engage in self sabotaging behavior.
• We become self-destructive.
• We spend time buffering to mask the pain and discomfort of tolerating.

We tolerate…it’s what we do and the more we tolerate the less we are available for what grows us, enriches us and nourishes us.

We over consume food, alcohol, shopping.  We veg out in front of the TV or get lost in video games in an effort to escape the tolerating.

And here is the mic drop moment…tolerating is self-inflicted.  We do it to ourselves.

We tolerate with negative self-talk

When we tell ourselves we aren’t or good enough or valuable enough or smart enough or pretty enough, handsome enough, muscled up enough…small enough…worthy enough…

When we tolerate negative self-talk we make room for self-pity, self-doubt and self-sabotage.

When we tolerate negative self-talk we become unavailable for self-care, self-love, self-respect and self-integrity.

We tolerate confusion and indecision

We tolerate the “I don’t knows,” we tolerate feeling stuck even though it feels terrible to feel stuck.  We tolerate the inaction of being stuck.

When we tolerate confusion and indecision we are not available for clarity and vision. We are not available to live our life with purpose.

We tolerate people-pleasing

When we do things out of fear of being judged or rejected, if we say no, we are tolerating neglect of self-care, we are tolerating the feelings of resentment towards others and we are tolerating not enjoying the things that we are doing, we are tolerating the feeling of being taking advantage of.

We tolerate a scarcity mindset

When we tolerate our scarcity mindset we are unavailable to show up and give it all.  We don’t bring all of our talent and skill to the game.

We hold back at work, in relationships and in life.  We hold back because we think the other shoe is going to drop or we keep score and someone is getting more.  We hold back because we fear the feeling of showing up and giving our all it being good enough.  When we tolerate scarcity thoughts and thoughts of insufficiency, we are unavailable for abundance and all that the universe has to offer.

We tolerate drama

When we tolerate drama, we are unavailable for relationships that grow us and enrich us.  We are not available for loving, supportive, authentic, truthful and honest relationships.

We tolerate judgment

When we tolerate judging others, we are not available to work on ourselves, we are not available for the part of us needs attention and nurturing.

These are a few things that I found I was tolerating in myself.

Here’s the thing… It takes a lot of courage to make yourself unavailable to the things that you’ve been accustomed to tolerating.

• You have to say no.
• You have to feel discomfort.
• You have to show up for yourself even when it’s hard.
• You have to stop tolerating your own excuses.

You have to do things that are unfamiliar, tolerating is familiar even if it doesn’t feel good.

But, the payoff is that you begin to shape your life with the things that are truly in alignment with what you want to create, with your vision, and who you want to become and what you want to be available for.

I want you to imagine a life where you only make yourself available to the extraordinary possibilities.

What do you want to make yourself available for?

Maybe it’s more money, maybe it’s better relationships, maybe it’s better health.

Maybe it’s more organization, maybe you want to make yourself available to a thriving business.

Maybe you only want to make yourself available to incredible experiences.

You get to decide. what I can tell you is that an incredible shift begins to happen within you when you are done tolerating.

When you are done tolerating, you create availability. 

Alright my friends…I hope that this has been helpful to you and that you experienced a little bit of a mind shift that gets you goaling towards the life of your dreams and helps you create the outcomes of your heart’s desire.